When a chance for real love comes to you - seize the opportunity. It may never come again quite like that, believe me. Just go for it. Let the desire for love and not the terror of fear be your guide. Whatever you do - don't let love pass you by. You will get many opportunities to love, to be loved, and be in love if you allow yourself to, but you won't get too many chances to have real love.
There is nothing more fulfilling in this world than loving someone. And there is nothing quite as risky. For in order to let love in and let it pour out of your heart you really have to let down the walls, remove the armor and open your heart. There is nothing more frightening in this world than the fear of having your heart broken. Anyone who has ever loved and lost knows exactly what I'm talking about.
It takes courage to really love. It takes guts to step up to the plate and play the game 100%. Babe Ruth, one of the greatest baseball players of all time, was such a man. Every time at bat he risked it all. Although he struck out almost as many times as he hit the ball, he is best remembered as the home run king. That's because he played his heart out and didn't want to live in a world of regret. Look at your own life. Can you say the same about your willingness to love someone?
It takes courage to step out into the arena of love, because only when you're willing to risk loving and being loved can you really know true love.
The feeling of love is intoxicating and seductive. It's the one ingredient that makes our dreams suddenly seem possible. Love is the only thing that can conquer our fears of failure, of being rejected, of losing. It single-handedly can defeat those feelings of inadequacy that we all have whenever we become vulnerable.
When love is real, loving someone is natural and easy. Our souls desire that closeness and long for that dance of intimacy that only two souls really in love can dance.
When you find that special person, allow yourself to dance, even though you don't know all the steps and you don't know where it will lead. Let your heart not your head be your guide, because your head will always give you a gazillion reasons why you should sit the dance out. Who are you to deny your heart and emotions from feeling the music and dancing the dance?
Love and relationships are the most wonderful part of life. They are also the hardest part of life because they require us to "show up", be vulnerable, risk and because they will always push our hot buttons. But it is only through love and relationship that we grow.
Gail Sheehy writes, "Growth demands a temporary surrender of security." So when love comes your way and you're scared; when you're at a crossroads and you really don't know what to do, ask your heart these two questions.
Do you want to settle for safety and security and just get through your life?
Or, do you want to take the risk to live your life fully with passion and true love?
Listen to your heart. It will tell you what to do.
I recently received a wonderful letter from a reader who has the courage to face her fear and is willing to risk it all in order to have true love. She magnificently writes, "Don't you ever wonder what you could have had if only YOU had gone for it? Never finding out because you never tried for it is the worst failure of all."
She is right. When you're lucky enough to have love come your way - play full out and go for it. You really don't want to live in a world of "what if…" or have a life of regret, do you?