Sunday, April 13, 2008

What men want and 3 things to avoid

Men want to win and feel like winners. They don't want to be corrected, criticized or conquered by you. So what's a girl to do? Take the sweetness approach. This doesn't mean you have doormat written on your forehead, either. It means that you get what you want and he feels he is winning.

Winning, in guy talk, means feeling admired and respected. Since more than anything else, men want to win, let them win. Guys aren't always right even though they think they are. You don't always have to make them right, just don't make them wrong. Here's how:

  • Reinforce what he does right because that makes him feel admired.

    DON'T criticize what he does wrong.

  • Praise or approve his actions because that makes him feel admired/respected.

    DON'T criticize, blame, disapprove, condemn.

  • Surrender the battle. That makes him feel respected and you win the war.

    DON'T conquer or even think of trying to obtain by force. Remember how caged animals can be!

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