Q: This guy I've been dating for only two weeks, already asks me to sleep with him. I am a virgin and he is not.
Lately he has been a little distant and he never calls me; I always call him and I'm getting sick of it. What do you think is going on here?
I'm starting to fall for him and I'm scared I'm gonna get hurt. What should I do?
A: You should leave his ass alone, pronto! He has made it crystal clear that he is very interested in sex with you, and not very interested in a relationship with you. If you get weak and sleep with him, you will get hurt; make no mistake about it.
Don't even think about throwing your precious virginity away like that! If he wants you to lose your virginity to him after only two weeks in a very one-sided relationship, tell him to get lost.
Q: I am having problems with my sex life, I never feel up to it. When I try, I can't get a stiffy. Should I try viagra??
A: I suggest that you direct this question to your physician, not an advice columnist. The fact that you never feel up to it, could be due to any number of things, from chronic fatigue, to loss of interest in your partner to medical problems.
If you can't get it up, Viagra may be a feasible option for you. For confidential information about Viagra, visit the KwikMed web site. Be certain to read the F.A.Q. area because there are positives and negatives to almost everything.
Q: My marriage is going down hill. I have depression, bi-polar disorder and some more stuff. My husband can not get over the past. I made some big mistakes that I regret financially, but I can not re-track what I did. I learned from my mistakes and I would like to go forward with him.
He is always changing on me. One minute he's alright with it, and the next I am hearing about it. What should I do?
A: What is the past that your husband can't get over? According to the information you provided, I offer you this advice. The two of you made vows for better or worse.
Regardless of the financial mistakes you've made in the past --- the past is the past. No, you can not erase the past, but if you have forgiven yourself, he should also. Almost everyone deserves a second chance.
Talk to your husband, and consider consulting with a marriage counselor. Lay all of your cards on the table. Ask your husband exactly what is it that the two of you can do to move on.
Depression and bipolar disorder are an illness. Inform your husband that you need him to be there for you.
Q: I have a man, been w/him almost 4 years. Almost every holiday he's got a beef with me. My birthday was Monday and he called himself being mad and didn't even SAY "Happy Birthday", much less anything else. Still hasn't said anything but calls me to redo his resume!! I don't know if it's coincidence that he "conveniently" has a beef or not. I also have affection/emotional issues with him (not getting enough from him but always giving it). What do you think? You don't have to be gentle.
A: I think your "man" should be labeled your so-called man. Girl, he is plain cheap! Don't let his ass get away with it! It's not a coincidence that he has beef with you on holidays and important days --- the beef doesn't just happen --- it's planned.
Think back to the beginning of this relationship. You know --- the way it starts out is usually the way it ends up. Speaking of résumé's, it's high time you update yours --- your Romantic Résumé
Old habits die hard, and it seems that he is in the habit of running game on you. Later for that, aiight? Valentine's day is right around the corner. If he get beef with you on or about 2-14-99, don't just kick him to the curb, Drop Kick him to the curb!
Oh yeah, regarding the affection/emotional issues, relationships are give/receive --- not give/give. 'Ya heard?